Not so long ago, I was 625 pounds. I took cholesterol and blood pressure medication, walked with a cane, and hated life and myself. As many of you know, I've been on an amazing journey, a journey to take back my life. I'm not a teacher, a doctor, nor do I have a degree or any plaques on my wall. What I do have is the experience, a plan, that helped me to regain control of my life, and I want to help you to do the same. Let's do it together. Dan Hawthorne

Monday, July 6, 2015

A Schoolyard Bully Named "Change".

Change, most agree, is scary.  Those around you will warn you about it, promising, "be careful”. Dread loves company. I remember, like yesterday, my biggest fear—me. That six hundred pound giant scared the hell out of me. He was intensely intimidating; to the point where I couldn't even make eye contact with him.  I avoided my own reflection, only facing it when I absolutely could not avoid it, like at a family event, when someone insists on a group photo, or when saying cheese at the department of motor vehicles.

I actually believed in the misguided perception that if ignored long enough, he’d simply cease to exist. I was counting on God to perform, not just a miracle, but an unsolicited miracle.  That never happened.

Hopelessness fed off my anxiety, denial from my procrastination, and the cycle spun—healthy and satisfied for years--while I became bigger and bigger.   

What is the six hundred pound obstacle in your life?  Is it a habit or an addiction? Maybe you desperately want a better job and fear keeps you from trying. Do you wish to ask that attractive man/woman out but you're afraid of rejection? How about that lift in salary, you just can't bring yourself to ask for? Or maybe, just maybe, you need to make a change--to live!

All strives in life, whether trifling or detrimental, metamorphous, like a school yard bully, developing from the immense authority we give to them, power only we can take away.

Change starts with desire. We must find the courage to break out of our comfort zone and crush those restrictions we have put upon ourselves, that which keeps us lost and stagnate.  When unproductive, we stand no chance of fulfilling God's purpose for our life, and the darker side, the devil if he must have a name, rejoices in the shackles we alone have put upon ourselves.

Don't limit yourself, as I did, break the cycle!

For years, I ignored reality. I sat idle on the couch, using food to feed MY schoolyard bully, while the years passed by in a blur. Don't waste those precious years; stand up to your bully now! Go after your life; find your well deserved happiness. It's out there, waiting.

How? Spend a minute every day, one day at time, rebuilding your confidence. Don't expect to take huge steps, instead, rejoice in the baby steps, celebrate the process of taking back your control--one day at a time! Stop telling yourself you can’t and tell yourself you can! 

Grab your slingshot and sleigh YOUR giant.